Oh, we sit here daily and talk but have no idea what to do for the friend who is grieving. What do you say, what do you do. When you're between the ages of lets say 21-28 you are still learning the ropes of life. Generally you are planning weddings, baby showers, vacations and planning vacations. So, your best friend's parent dies... what to do?
As my friend N has learned, you don't know what to do. There are no rules, there is nothing to say to make it better. You stumble over your words and feel dumb and really don't know what to say. Try to make life easier, talk about normal things and then if they bring it up- let them talk.
Treats. If you eat treats... just enjoy them when they bring them over. If you're trying to diet before vacation at the worst time- eat them anyway. Just remember, be there for them. Send flowers to the funeral if you can, send food for the family if you can cook, otherwise just listen when you need to and remember they will talk when needed.
"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you've forgotten the words" -unknown
